The back-to-school season can be exciting for some children, but for others it brings feelings of worry, nervousness, or even dread. Many parents notice that their child complains of stomachaches, trouble sleeping, or sudden clinginess as the first day of school approaches. These are often signs of back-to-school anxiety.
Anxiety during transitions is very common, and the good news is that there are many ways parents can help children feel more confident and prepared. At Heritage Counseling, we often work with families who are navigating these same challenges. Our therapists understand how stressful the school transition can be and are here to support both children and parents through the process.
Why Back-to-School Anxiety Happens
Back-to-school anxiety often appears when a child is facing new or uncertain experiences. This might include starting at a new school, meeting a new teacher, or adjusting to changes in routine. Children who are naturally sensitive or shy may also feel more anxious in social situations, like making friends or speaking up in class.
Some common forms of anxiety your child may be struggling with are:
Separation Anxiety- younger children, especially in PreK and kindergarten, may have increased fears around leaving caregivers and familiar routines
Social Anxiety- being around a new group of peers and in a new setting can cause stress around connecting and communicating with others
Generalized Anxiety- Sometimes anxiety may not appear to have a specific link but rather is woven throughout the day. Environmental factors, overwhelming experiences, and lots of changes can cause generalized anxiety
Phobias- a type of intense, irrational fear of a specific object, situation, or activity that is out of proportion to the danger of said object. Children may experience fear around school bathrooms or the school itself.
While a certain level of nervousness is expected, persistent anxiety can interfere with learning, sleep, and daily functioning. That is why recognizing the signs early is important.
Signs Your Child May Be Struggling
Children do not always express anxiety in words. Instead, you might notice:
Frequent stomachaches or headaches with no medical cause
Refusal to go to school or extreme resistance in the mornings
Irritability, crying spells, or sudden mood changes
Difficulty falling or staying asleep
Clinginess or difficulty spending time alone
Changes in appetite
If these signs continue for more than a couple of weeks, it may be time to seek extra support.
How Parents Can Support Their Child
There are practical ways parents can make the transition back to school feel less overwhelming.
Create Predictable Routines
Children feel more secure when they know what to expect. Set aside time for a consistent bedtime routine and morning schedule. Depending on your child’s age, you may want to involve them in the process of creating their routine.
Talk About Feelings Openly
Give your child space to share worries without judgment. Listen carefully and validate their emotions. Saying, “It makes sense that you feel nervous about meeting new classmates,” helps your child feel understood.
Visit the School Together
If possible, walk through the school before the first day. Meet the teacher, find the classroom, and practice the drop-off routine. Familiarity reduces fear of the unknown.
Teach Coping Skills
Simple breathing exercises, calming music, or a small comfort item in their backpack can help your child feel more in control. Encourage positive self-talk like, “I can handle this,” or “I am brave.”
Model Calm Behavior
Children often look to parents for cues. When you stay calm and confident about the transition, your child is more likely to feel reassured.
Communication with School Staff
Teachers and staff are often excited and open to working with children and families who are struggling with symptoms of anxiety during school. Getting feedback, creating a plan, and ensuring everyone is on the same page can help reduce symptoms.
When to Seek Professional Help
Most children adjust to school within a few weeks. If anxiety becomes severe, interferes with daily life, or causes ongoing distress, counseling can be very helpful. At Heritage Counseling, our team offers a range of therapeutic options designed for children, including play therapy, which helps children express and work through emotions in a developmentally appropriate way. We also provide support for parents so you do not have to navigate these challenges alone.
Final Thoughts
Back-to-school anxiety is common, but it does not have to overwhelm your child. By creating supportive routines, encouraging open conversations, and modeling calm confidence, you can help your child ease into the school year with less stress. If your child continues to struggle, professional counseling can make a meaningful difference.
At Heritage Counseling, we are here to help children build coping skills, increase confidence, and adjust more smoothly to school transitions. If you would like to learn more about our services or schedule an appointment, please call us today at 214-363-2345. Our team is ready to answer your questions and provide guidance for your family.