Understanding your child's autism diagnosis is an important step in learning how to best support their growth and development. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), approximately 1 in 36 children in the United States is diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) (1). This guide is here to help you navigate the next steps with confidence, offering insights and resources to empower both you and your child as you move forward together.
Coping with Receiving the Diagnosis for Your Child
Receiving an autism diagnosis for your child can bring a mix of emotions—validation, relief, fear, uncertainty, or even grief. Some parents find comfort in understanding their child’s behavior, which may have felt puzzling before. Others may wrestle with uncertainty, wondering what lies ahead. It’s important to know that you are not alone on this journey. Many parents experience these waves of emotion, and it's okay to take time to process and seek support from loved ones, therapists, or support groups.
Remember, an autism diagnosis does not define your child—it simply provides insight into how your child interacts with the world in a unique and special way. Every child is different, and their experience of autism will vary. It's essential to allow yourself the space to seek understanding and reach out for support as you process your feelings.
Understanding the Power of Early Intervention
Research has shown that early intervention plays a crucial role in the development of children diagnosed with autism. Studies indicate that children who receive therapy and interventions before the age of 6 experience significant improvements in communication skills, social functioning, and overall cognitive development. According to the National Institutes of Health (NIH), early intervention can improve outcomes in 40-60% of children diagnosed with autism, helping them function more independently and integrate better with their peers (2). The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) emphasizes that these early interventions not only support the development of adaptive behaviors and language skills but also positively impact children's mental health by enhancing their social abilities (3).
Starting interventions at a young age sets children on a path toward long-term success. Research shows that early support leads to better social interactions, improved emotional regulation, language development, and a reduction in challenging behaviors. Early intervention also helps children develop essential skills, such as problem-solving, daily living, attention span, and executive functioning. The earlier these interventions are implemented, the greater the opportunity for children to build these foundational skills, which are crucial for school, relationships, and overall well-being. While the most significant gains occur before age 6, children who continue receiving therapy after this age still benefit greatly from ongoing support. Continued therapy helps foster progress in social, emotional, and cognitive skills, aiding children in adapting to changing environments and overcoming new challenges as they grow.
A key scientific concept that supports the power of early intervention is neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity refers to the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. In simple terms, the brain has a remarkable capacity to adapt and change, especially in response to new experiences and learning. For young children, the brain is particularly flexible, making early childhood an optimal time to intervene. Studies have shown that the earlier a child receives targeted therapies and interventions, the more their brain can “rewire” itself to build new skills and develop adaptive responses to the world around them (4).
Neuroplasticity plays a key role in autism because it demonstrates how children's brains are especially adaptable during childhood, making them particularly receptive to forming new neural connections, behaviors, and learning patterns. Early intervention leverages this heightened neuroplasticity, allowing children with autism to build essential skills that foster a more optimal developmental trajectory. Studies show that the first few years of life, particularly before the age of 6, are crucial for neuroplasticity, which is why early intervention has such a significant impact on development (4). Even after age 6, the brain remains adaptable, and continued therapy can still support the growth of important skills. It’s important to remember that even if your child did not receive an early diagnosis or intervention, it's never too late to start. Getting support at any age is crucial for helping your child reach their full potential, and ongoing therapy can still lead to meaningful progress.
Next Steps After Diagnosis
Once your child has been diagnosed, you may wonder what to do next. Here are some key steps to take:
Learn About Autism – Educate yourself about autism spectrum disorder (ASD) to better understand your child’s needs. A helpful guide I recommend for parents is the Autism Speaks 100-Day Kit, which provides crucial information for the first 100 days after an autism diagnosis. This kit offers insights into understanding the diagnosis, available resources, interventions, and a breakdown of services. You can access the 100-Day Kit here. Additionally, two excellent books I recommend for parents are The Autism Spectrum Disorder Handbook by Valerie G. L. G. and The Out-of-Sync Child by Carol Kranowitz. Both books provide valuable guidance on understanding autism and practical strategies for supporting your child's development.
Practice Externalization – Remember that an autism diagnosis is just one part of who your child is, not their entire identity. Externalization means separating the diagnosis from your child’s core self, helping you see them as a unique individual with strengths beyond their condition. Autism exists on a spectrum, and every child’s experience is different. Focus on your child's individual potential and capabilities, recognizing that they are not defined by their diagnosis.
Explore the Strengths and Superpowers of Autism – Children with autism often have unique strengths, such as exceptional skills in areas like math, art, or technology. By identifying and nurturing these strengths, you can help your child build confidence and realize their potential. Embrace the diverse ways your child experiences the world, and support them in developing their talents to thrive.
Connect with Professionals – Seek guidance from therapists, pediatricians, speech and occupational therapists, and behavioral specialists.
Develop an Intervention Plan – Work with professionals to create an individualized intervention plan tailored to your child’s unique strengths and challenges. This plan should include specific goals for your child’s development across social, emotional, cognitive, and behavioral domains. Goals might focus on enhancing communication skills, improving emotional regulation, fostering social interactions, and developing problem-solving or adaptive behaviors. The plan will also outline targeted interventions, such as speech therapy, social skills training, and behavioral strategies, that are designed to support your child’s growth in these areas. Regular reviews of this plan will ensure that interventions are adjusted as your child progresses and their needs evolve.
Collaborate with School Professionals – It's important to work closely with teachers, school social workers, the school psychologist, and other educational professionals to ensure your child receives the necessary support in the school setting. Advocate for an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) to ensure your child receives appropriate accommodations, such as modified lessons, additional support in social or behavioral development, or specialized teaching methods. Building a good rapport with your child's teachers and school team is essential in monitoring your child's progress. Regular communication and collaboration will help ensure that the IEP is amended as needed to reflect your child’s growth, ensuring they continue to receive the right resources and support.
Begin to Build Your Child's Regulation Tool Kit – Children with autism often have unique ways of seeking regulation. It’s helpful to create a toolkit that includes sensory and emotional regulation tools to help your child self-soothe and manage overwhelming situations. For children with sensory sensitivities, items like noise-canceling headphones, sunglasses, or soft fabrics can help reduce sensory overload and improve focus. Children who are sensory seekers may benefit from tactile materials like kinetic sand, textured fidgets, weighted blankets, stuffed animals, or sensory vests that help them regain calm and focus. Additionally, emotional regulation tools like emotion charts, visual aids for guided breathing, or deep-pressure tools such as a weighted lap pad can be helpful. You might also include calming music playlists, calming scents, or portable calming spaces (e.g., a small tent or quiet corner). A therapist can help assess your child’s specific needs and recommend additional tools that are most appropriate for your child’s sensory preferences and emotional regulation needs. These tools give your child a way to express themselves and regain control over their emotions, helping them navigate challenging moments with more resilience.
Find a Support System – Connecting with other parents, local organizations, and advocacy groups can provide emotional and practical support.
Interventions and Therapy Options
There are various therapies and interventions that can help support your child’s development. Each therapy is designed to target specific areas of need and can be adapted to your child’s individual strengths and challenges. Some of the most effective options include:
Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) – ABA is a structured, evidence-based approach designed to reinforce positive behaviors and reduce challenging ones. This therapy utilizes systematic techniques to teach new skills and helps children with autism engage more effectively with their environment. ABA is the most intensive form of therapy and is particularly beneficial for children with more severe autism symptoms, such as being non-verbal, experiencing developmental delays, uncontrolled stimming, or having safety concerns like bolting or engaging in harmful physical aggression. With three years of experience in an ABA clinic, I have developed a deep understanding of how to apply ABA principles to create individualized interventions tailored to each child’s unique needs. In my therapy sessions, I integrate ABA techniques alongside play therapy and cognitive behavioral interventions, providing a well-rounded approach that supports every aspect of a child’s development.
Play Therapy – Play therapy allows children to express their feelings, work through conflicts, and practice social behaviors in a safe, supportive environment. Using toys, games, and role-playing, children engage in therapeutic activities that foster emotional expression, social interaction, and problem-solving skills. For children with autism, this approach helps build emotional regulation, improve social skills, and develop coping strategies in a relaxed, non-threatening setting.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) – CBT focuses on changing negative thought patterns and behaviors by helping children identify and reframe unhelpful thinking. This type of therapy helps children with autism manage anxiety, anger, and other emotional challenges. By teaching children coping strategies, relaxation techniques, and how to challenge their own thoughts, CBT can improve emotional regulation and problem-solving skills, fostering greater independence and mental resilience.
Speech and Language Therapy – Speech therapy helps children with autism develop communication skills, whether through verbal speech, sign language, or alternative communication methods like augmentative communication devices. This therapy addresses language delays, speech articulation, and pragmatic language skills, such as understanding social cues and taking turns in conversations. Improving communication can enhance a child’s ability to engage with others, express needs, and form meaningful relationships.
Occupational Therapy (OT) – Occupational therapy focuses on helping children improve physical development such as fine (e.g., handwriting) and large motor skills (e.g., catching and throwing a ball), sensory processing (e.g., managing sensitivity to light or touch), and daily living skills (e.g., dressing, eating). OT also assists with improving attention, hand-eye coordination, and problem-solving abilities. For children with autism, OT can be particularly beneficial in addressing sensory processing issues, which can sometimes be overwhelming and prevent them from focusing on other aspects of life.
Social Skills Training – Social skills training is designed to help children with autism improve their social interactions and learn how to navigate social situations. At Heritage Counseling and Consulting, we offer a social skills group that focuses on helping children with social delays foster more meaningful connections. The group runs on a 10-week curriculum where children are taught specific social skills each week and have the opportunity to practice them in a group setting with peers. Throughout the sessions, children receive guidance from a therapist who models, supports, and redirects their interactions, helping them improve social pragmatic skills and build lasting friendships.
Parent Training and Support – Parent training and support help equip parents with strategies to support their child’s development at home and in everyday settings. This therapy involves teaching parents how to reinforce skills learned in therapy, create a structured environment, and handle challenging behaviors. Parent training can also involve learning about self-care, stress management, and ways to advocate for their child’s needs in different environments such as school and community settings.
Support for Parents and Families
Parenting a child with autism comes with unique challenges, but there are resources and communities to help you along the way:
Support Groups – Both in-person and online groups provide a space to connect with other parents who understand your journey.
Self-Care – Prioritize your mental and emotional well-being by seeking therapy, practicing mindfulness, and finding time for yourself.
Advocacy and Legal Support – Learn about your child’s rights in education, healthcare, and community services.
Family Inclusion – Educate siblings and relatives about autism so they can support and bond with your child in meaningful ways.
From My Heart: My Approach to Supporting Your Child with Autism
An autism diagnosis isn’t the end of the road—it’s the beginning of a beautiful, transformative journey. It may feel overwhelming at times, but with the right support, your child can truly thrive. To parents, I want you to know that you're not walking this path alone. Together, step by step, we can navigate this journey, building confidence and celebrating the incredible strengths your child brings to the world.
I strongly believe that children with autism are some of the most insightful, resilient, and creative individuals. With over 9 years of experience working closely with children and families, my mission has always been to provide a compassionate, personalized approach that honors each child’s unique path. No two journeys are alike, and it’s a true privilege to partner with families and support their child’s growth every step of the way.
In my work, I’ve witnessed the amazing power of early intervention. I’ve seen children who once struggled with communication blossom into confident speakers, and children who were hesitant to connect with others begin forming deep, lasting friendships. These moments of progress are what fuel my passion for this work, and I am deeply committed to helping every child reach their fullest potential.
I would be honored to be a part of your child’s support network. Together, we can build a sense of community that empowers your child to grow, and I’ll be here every step of the way to guide, listen, and offer the resources and support you need. At Heritage Counseling, we understand that every child’s needs are unique, and we offer tailored therapy and support to help your family thrive. Whether you’re exploring early interventions, behavioral therapy, or parent counseling, we’re here to walk this path with you.
Please feel free to reach out to us at 214-363-2345 to learn more about how we can support your family. You are not alone on this journey. Let’s work together to create a brighter, more connected future for your child.
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